May 31st, 2013

List of Resources: The Problem of Sexual Assault at USC

“Complaints filed against USC, UC Berkeley over rape reporting” – Los Angeles Times,0,106833.story


“Sexual Assaults Mishandled At Dartmouth, Swarthmore, USC, Complaints Say” – Huffington Post

Website of the Student Coalition Against Rape










The SCAR Defense Fund

A trust which will be used to ease the burden of legal fees accrued by students pursuing recourse for sexual violence that occurred while attending USC.

May 31st, 2013
hungryfeminist Petition to USC: Clean Up Your Act on Sexual Assault & Comply with Title IX

Please sign this petition! 

As a recent SC alum, I am trying to make a difference at USC by rallying support for the Student Coalition Against Rape.  I started a petition to USC to follow it’s own so-called zero-tolerance policies with regards to rape and sexual assault, and make sure that support for victims of rape is appropriately reported and dealt with by the University.

Please join me in signing this petition and sharing with your friends.


May 26th, 2013

In Which Society Further Genders Already Gendered-Play

I saw this on Babble, and couldn’t help but notice it was a PERFECT example of the whole concept of enforcing gendered play.

Not only are little girls and boys typically presented with gendered toys from birth, but when their parents see their kids reactions to these toys - those interpretations are very often made along gendered lines.

Short example/explanation: A female-assigned-at birth infant doesn’t absolutely hate it and cry when her Mom puts pink on her, the Mom personally likes the color pink and projects that the kid is “so girly just like mommy” and thus purchases “girly” toys for the FAB infant. The infant will play with the new toy (because who doesn’t like playing with new toys) and the behavior is thus further gendered. 

This definitely happens here. Yes, we all know that ALL parents project their own personal shit on to their kids, but what no one ever talks about is how this behavior can be detrimental to the social and even intellectual behavior of the child. 

In this post below, the mother and Babble blogger, Selena Mae, glorifies how similar her toddler is to her. Now, I have nothing against this particular blogger, but it just presented a very stark example of this issue and precipitated a HUGE eye roll. Seriously…… OF COURSE YOUR TODDLER IS JUST LIKE YOU, SHE’S A TODDLER AND CHILDREN MIMIC THEIR PARENTS. At this age, children are who you teach them to be (with a few exceptions). In the part of the post below, we see that teaching and enforcing gendered play can have a further gendered outcome: The child likes, enjoys and internalizes what she is taught to enjoy. When the child responds positively, the child can interpreted as even more “traditionally female.”  This becomes a vicious cycle. 

When little girls play with doll houses or any sort of toy that has multiple pieces and visual complexities, they are seen as  ”delicate” and “nesters” which makes them - at the age of 22 months - great future mommies! Let’s already start that biological clock and look at this toddler as a future baby-maker. (Never mind the fact that she can’t even fully grasp what that means, or access the number of options she has available to her.)

When little boys play with toys that involve the same type of behavior - arranging multiple pieces and a lot of hand-eye-coordination or visual space arrangement, they are seeing as being thoughtful, strategic, and little builders or engineers in the making.  

But really, for all we know, this little toddler girl is in fact the future engineer or CEO or big-time project manager. What I see when I look at her playing with that ENORMOUS “dollhouse” is a child who is very excited and stimulated by very detail-oriented, strategic and meaningful play that she associates with the types of stories she is taught. Children often like this type of arrangement play because it gives them a positive sense of control and responsibility - they are responsible for putting together the legos or doll house pieces and it gives them satisfaction to have everything fit together correctly. Not to mention, kids are also emotionally fulfilled by acting out these stories in an empathetic way, and that behavior is reinforced as acceptable for her because she is a little girl and little girls are supposed to be sweet and caring. She also wants to make mommy happy by playing with the toys that her family wants her to play with, and thus receives positive reinforcement. 

Note: This is not meant to be at all a criticism of the mom. She’s probably a totally fabulous mom and I also deeply want to point out how she emphasizes her daughter is “fiesty” and “sassy” - which are words that also point to the fact she is she’s starting to respect her daughters independence and developing personal will. Rock on. My goal by writing this blurb is to analyze how these types of gendered play behaviors are perpetuated by parents who otherwise have golden intentions and want to nurture their children’s sense of personal agency and creativity. However,  I think that limiting children to gendered play then limits how their skills develop and how they perceive those skills and behaviors. Just food for thought.

May 6th, 2013





Coffee stain portrait by Hong Yi

are you serious

are you fucking kiddin me

I literally just yelled out “WHAT THE FUCK” 

Reblogged from Persephone wannabe.
April 27th, 2013

White girl makes soba! Love my Asian #food kick!

April 26th, 2013

Go Team Wendy! So glad I went tonight to meet some new epic friends and hear @wendy_geuel chat with the crowd.

December 30th, 2012

I might be a high-maintenance foodie, but I am the one whose apartment smells like Christmas. Now someone come help me eat these ginger-molasses cookies.

December 28th, 2012

Freshly baked pizza! Yummy yummy!

December 10th, 2012



Taking Back Idiot Nerd Girl

I thought this was a super interesting take on the meme, seen as how I was at one point a novice too.


Yes. All of this.

December 6th, 2012



nice resource. I’ve never been a fan of the whole ‘sex is what’s between your legs’ theory, since a lot of how we think about /talk about bodies and sex is cultural, but it is a nice document.


A guide to being an ally for friends and family of LGBT*QIA individuals. 

Online ebook available [HERE] if you would like to share with others but do not wish to link to your tumblr. (Also, it’s fun to turn the pages.)

Original size 20x24” posters available for educational purposes. Contact me directly for files. 

Not bad!

Reblogged from
December 5th, 2012

My Love Affair with Quinoa: A Recipe


I never used to be a believer. I thought it was bland, like plain white rice, but not as chewy.  I thought it was a fad, like juicing. Boy, was I wrong. 

I decided to experiment with quinoa. After many bland attempts and a schooling or two from a friend, I had an epiphany.  Quinoa was transformed for a somewhat dry, awkward grain, into a hearty and warm side dish. So, I would like to share what I believe to be a quite delicious basic quinoa recipe. This is the basic quinoa recipe I am using from here on out, and all other recipes (read or invented) will be added to this. Note: I also buy everything organic, but you don’t have to. Also, when I say “1/4 tsp” what I really mean is “add until it looks like enough.” 

Basic Quinoa


- 1 cup Quinoa

- 2 Cups Vegetable Stock (Trader Joe’s has a good store brand that’s cheap) 

- 1/4 tsp Seasoned Salt 

- 1/4 tsp Pepper (freshly ground, please)

- 1/4  Cumin. (Yes. You heard me. Cumin. In small quantities, cumin can make anything and everything taste deliciously savory.) 

- 2 Tb olive oil 


1. Put olive oil in pan. Put quinoa in pan. Mix. 

2. Toast quinoa over medium-low heat for 2 minutes. 

3. Add vegetable stock and spices to taste. Cover pan and cook for as long as it tells you to cook quinoa on the back of whatever package you are using. Or, do what I do, and stand there impatiently until it’s done. Stir as needed. 

December 3rd, 2012
Attacking femaleness, deriding ‘girly stuff’ and rolling your eyes at ‘women’s issues’ declaring yourself a ‘tomboy’ who gets along better with men because women are silly or pretty or whatever these are expressions of internalized sexism. If that’s the way you feel about your own sex you’ll be doomed to feel inferior no matter what you achieve in life.

Ariel Levy, Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture  (via seapotion)

(via feminishblog)

(Source: an-otaco)

Reblogged from Feminish
December 2nd, 2012

"Orgasm is my rocket fuel.

…I have no idea why or how a woman’s orgasm (I’m not sure that it’s the same for men quite in the same way) is connected to her whole feeling of sense of self and feeling empowered. But I know now it does. And when I say orgasm I am referring to the whole state of being, of being lit up from inside out and asking for what you want, and feeling connected with your body and your pussy, and loving your pussy and not feeling ashamed of anything. Yes it’s also about connecting with another human being. And also giving up the traditional role of caretaking the guy and his desires and putting our desires second or completely aside altogether.

Shiuan, Radical Ramblings 
November 21st, 2012

This Thanksgiving holiday, I am thankful for #sluttygirlproblems. 

November 16th, 2012
It’s not surprising, then, that being a woman in geek culture was for a long time a profoundly gender-deviant act. “Girl” and “geek” were a zero-sum dichotomy: to claim space in one, you had to relinquish equivalent claim to the other. Recently, though, there’s been a dramatic change: a sudden surge not only in the visibility of women in geek culture, but of the visibility and popularity of more traditionally feminine avenues of engagement with that culture—stuff like cosplay and crafting, both overwhelmingly female-dominated areas. At the same time, women are finding ways to reconcile geekery with femininity, which means that geek identity is no longer unimpeachably male. For the first time, there are visible swathes of geek culture that aren’t only female-majority, but unabashedly girly—in a culture where feminization is very directly equated to deprecation of value.